How a Magician’s Scarf Kept Me Motivated; a Metaphor from E-Squared

scarfWhile putting the finishing touches on my newest coaching program, I gained some great insight from a metaphor in the book E-Squared, by Pam Grout. (I LOVE when that happens!) Grout says…

“…Think of a magician pulling a scarf through a hole. If you can just grab ahold of one tiny end, you can pull it all the way through. That’s all it takes~ one itty-bitty end. Decide what you want and keep focusing until you’ve pulled it all the way through.”

When I set a new goal I get excited and motivated, imagining what it will look and feel like when I achieve it. And I get busy moving towards it; taking the action steps I believe will move me in the direction of it.

Yet somewhere along the line, I can feel discouraged, as things don’t appear to be “happening.” I can become de-motivated and start entertaining the voice in my head that’s saying “You can’t do this… Maybe it’s too big… What’s the use? Try something else… blah, blah, BLAH!”

But this week, I kept thinking of that metaphor and it really helped me to stay focused and productive. Although that voice kept chiming in, it didn’t sound quite as loud. When I heard it (you hear voices too, right?), I would remind myself of the scarf and tell myself (you talk to yourself too, right?) “You don’t have to pull it all the way through right now; just hold on to that corner!”

Holding on to that itty-bitty little corner is very do-able, even if we’re feeling discouraged.
And holding on is the polar opposite of letting go or, in this case, giving up

I discovered that telling myself to “just hold on to the corner” gave me more motivation than I ever would have imagined! And with that increased motivation came the strength to give it a good, firm tug here and there.

And, just like the metaphor, the holding on and the tugging advanced that scarf through the hole. I still can’t see the other end completely, but I see much more of it than I would have if I hadn’t kept pulling.

How do you like this metaphor?
Do you have one of your own that helps you when you feel discouraged? I’d love to hear it!

My 6-week Groups on E-Squared begin this week and there’s still a few spots left. I’d love to have your “E” join us~ here’s all the info.!


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A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to E2

The very first experiment in my new favorite book, E2 by Pam Grout, tells us to ask for a blessing or unexpected gift from the “Field of Potentiality” (the FP) or God or the Universe or Infinite Intelligence or whatever higher power you believe in. You set a 48 hour limit and you ask for “a thumbs up, a clear sign, something that cannot be written off as coincidence.”

One of my clients just started the book and I decided to do the experiment with him. The clock was ticking and I decided to spend a little time in my journal, but wanted to use my favorite pen, which I couldn’t locate. I thought it might be in my purse and when I went there to look, not only did I find that pen, I also found this sticker, which I had never seen before.

heart1Sign delivered, thank you FP!

A few minutes after the 48 hour deadline had passed, my client (I’ll call him Brian, because that is not his name) texted me “He’s late!”

A little while later Brian called me to tell me “it didn’t work.”

A little relevant background on Brian:
He is open-minded enough to play with me, but skeptical, intelligent and “realistic” enough to get in his own way.
Aren’t we all?

He said “Well there was this one thing, but it didn’t count because it was already there.” He proceeded to tell me how, right after our session, he was having a final inspection on a home he built. The inspector was crossing all the T’s and dotting the I’s, so Brian could be released from the bond held on the property.

They couldn’t locate the surveyor monuments (4″ X 4″ wooden posts, marking the borders of the property). The inspector told him he’d need to bring in a surveyor to install them (a $2,000 project) and then the bond could be released.

Brian felt certain that those posts were there and he continued to look, despite the inspector telling him they weren’t. Lo and behold, he found them! Now not only would he not have to pay a surveyor to install them, the bond could be released and he could get his money back.

Although he was very happy, Brian didn’t feel that counted as his sign, because “it was already there.” WHAT?! So was the heart-shaped sticker, in my purse.

We began what felt like a bit of a debate to me; I wanted him to shift his perception, let go of his skepticism and acknowledge what seemed like a very obvious blessing/sign to me. And he wanted me to agree that we shouldn’t count something that was already there as a sign. Unfortunately, our call was disconnected before we had the chance to really get into it.

don1A few minutes later he sent me this text.

I was stunned.

In E2, Grout tells us that God has quite a sense of humor. To me, this was a costly, inconvenient, yet hilarious sign. Brian is still trying to figure out if I might be right.

I’ve been accused of reading into things too much, so tell me what you think.
Did finding those surveying monuments “count” as a sign, since they were “already there”?
Was getting a ticket for using a phone while driving also a sign?
Have you read E2 yet?


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It’s Always/Never a Good Time

alwaysneverAs I put the finishing touches on my next master mind program and choose the day/time/start date, in my mind it feels like it is always-never a good time to promote something new. When you think about it, there’s always some reason why this day or that month or this time would not be desirable. Continue reading


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What Didn’t Go Wrong?

fallThis morning, as I walked down the stairs to make the coffee and start my day, I nearly fell. I caught myself and no harm was done, except for an abrupt WAKE UP from the Universe. GOOOOOOOD Morning!!!
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Don’t Panic; Feel Grateful

Just re-learned a great lesson from a client. I say RE-learned because it is definitely something I already know, yet I don’t always remember. The lesson is that we need to appreciate things we already have; like our heart beating or our air conditioning working or, as my client is now experiencing, the software which runs his entire company functioning.
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The Best Things in Life Really ARE Free!

A week or so before Mother’s Day, I sent my three children the following email:

GOOD Morning Children!
In case you are wondering what to get your Mombo for Mothers’ Day, a Love List from each of you would make me VERY happy. For various reasons, all of you have limited funds this year, and I would feel really great about you NOT spending any of it on me :-P . Continue reading


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Writing About Writing

Sherry Richert Belul invited me to participate in a Writer’s Blog Hop. Since I love Sherry AND I love writing, I said “YES Maam!” Below are my answers to the Blog Hop questions, which I enjoyed pondering and eventually answering. Continue reading


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A Sign from my Mom~on Mother’s Day!

Anyone who has lost their Mom misses them just a little extra on Mother’s Day. Since that was the case for me, I spent part of the morning looking at old pictures, cards she’d sent and even more time wondering where the HECK she went when she died 27 years ago.

I’ve always believed in the eternal nature of the spirit and (as I explain in this story) when my Mom passed away, any shred of doubt about that quickly vanished. She sent and continues to send me “signs” which intensify my belief. Here’s what she “sent” on Mother’s Day…

I have no idea WHY, but I decided to Google my Mom on Sunday. When the idea came to me, I thought “Well, that’s silly! She died way before the Internet even existed ~you’re not gonna find anything!”

Despite the common sense which was trying to occupy my mind, into Google I typed my Mom’s name:

(Her real name was Olga, but few people knew that and no one ever called her that; she was Honey!)
And here is what popped up! 

 Umm, yes; as a matter of fact, she IS!

Umm, yes; as a matter of fact, she IS!

A book, titled “Honey on Your Mind” written by a young author named Maria (Are-You-Kidding-Me?!) MURNANE!

Well knock me over with a feather! Happy Mother’s Day Mom, and thank you for that amazing gift! Keep ‘em comin’; I look forward to unwrapping many, many more!

And if you are missing your Mom this Mother’s Day, I wish a sign for you :-)  


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Think and Grow Rich…Again?!

I am SUPER excited to be starting a book study on Think & Grow Rich in a few hours. Although I’ve been facilitating groups on this book for almost eight years, this time I will be the student. My teachers will be the awesome Paul Martinelli and Roddy Galbraith.


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Coincidence is in the Eye of the Beholder

Don’t you just love “coincidence”?

The dictionary defines coincidence as “a chance occurrence of events, remarkable either for being simultaneous or for apparently being connected.” I define coincidence as an uncanny, inexplicable connection of two or more events, which make you say “Whoa, that is so cool!”  One of these occurred last week… Continue reading


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