A few days ago, I heard my first “after-the-holidays” comment of the year. It came from someone who wants to participate in my Guided Meditation Workshop. She has “been thinking about meditating for quite a while” and when she saw the program she thought “this sounds perfect!” And she is really excited to get started…in 12 weeks. Really?!
The time commitment to be in the workshop is one hour a week for the live call, plus 15 minutes each day of meditation. That adds up to 165 MINUTES (less than 3 hours!) a WEEK for something that can transform your life (check out the testimonials!) and she wants to put that off until after-the-holidays.
We had an interesting discussion about the “after the holidays” mindset, which I’ll admit is one of my pet peeves. I asked her why she would be saying, and more importantly thinking that in mid-October. She explained how she helps with the class parties at her son’s elementary school, bakes a ton of cookies, has her family (eight people) over for Thanksgiving AND Christmas Eve dinner, in addition to shopping and wrapping gifts for everyone on her list.
My response was something along the lines of “Yeah?…So?”
What’s interesting to me (and by interesting, I mean silly. And ridiculous!) is how in mid-October, many people start thinking thoughts of frenzied shopping and wrapping and spending and baking. I did it myself for many years, when my children were little. I used to start shopping, wrapping and stashing away gifts in September, just so I could avoid the choas of doing it all last minute. The irony is I was, unconsciously, stressing myself out for three months, so I could avoid feeling stressed for a week or two. Oy vey!
I’m happy to say she did decide to join the next workshop which will end on December 6th. She’ll still have another three weeks before Christmas AND she will be calmer, much cooler and way more collected during those hectic (her word, not mine) days. We ended up having a good laugh about it, as she realized what her mindset was doing. It was conjuring up a feeling of rushing and busyness, which in addition to being unnecessary, would only intensify as the days and weeks went on.
We’ve got nine weeks until Christmas and Hanukkah folks. Think about it: in a couple of months you’ll be enjoying the merriment of the holidays with family and friends. You’ll be spending a few days, maybe even an entire week celebrating the holiday that is your tradition. That’s it. If you were planning a dinner party nine weeks from now, would you be putting other things on hold until after that party? I’m guessing not, but that’s just my opinion.
What are you putting off until January, and why? What are your colleagues or clients postponing? How does the holiday mindset affect your business and your busyness? Do you expect your business to increase or decrease because of the holidays? Do you alter your mindset as November approaches? And my final question: when is it appropriate to start saying (and thinking!) “after-the-holidays”?