One of my favorite things in the world is the “Getting Into The Vortex~Guided Meditation” by Jerry and Esther Hicks. Notice, I didn’t say one of my favorite books or one of my favorite CD’s. It’s both of those things, yet I think of it more as a tool. The BEST tool I have found for living a happier life. I know that sounds like a ridiculous statement, but sometimes we do sound ridiculous when we talk about our favorite things. So forgive me, but I really love this tool!
BUT, that’s not what this post is about. This post is about something that came up this week during one of the workshops I facilitate on this material. This week, we discussed the section on Relationships and the following excerpt prompted a profound realization:
“If you become reliant on the behavior of others to keep you feeling good, then when you observe unwanted behavior, it is logical that you would not feel good. And the worst part of that is, you then believe that your feeling good is dependent on their behavior, over which you have no control”
We realized how, since studying this material, we have developed more tolerance and patience and understanding when dealing with others who would otherwise irritate or frustrate or even anger us. We’re beginning to “let things go” more than we used to and we’re reminding ourselves that someone else’s bad behavior can only affect us IF we give it power by focusing our attention on it. In other words, we’re not sweating the small stuff (which we used to consider big stuff) and we’re finding the irritations don’t irritate us nearly as much, and situations improve much faster… which is pretty darned fantastic 🙂
So here is the profound realization~
We have way more control when we give up
trying to control someone else’s behavior.
Who knew? Did you? How do you handle others behaving badly? Do you think you have a choice in whether you feel irritated by someone else’s behavior? How about when someone cuts you off in traffic and nearly causes an accident~ do you have a choice?