Monthly Archives: November 2011

Don’t Just Be Thankful…Be Grateful!

One of my mentors suggested that there is a difference between being thankful and being grateful.  He said that being thankful is appreciating something you already have, while being grateful is appreciating something you have not yet received, but have faith is coming.

Although the dictionary does not distinguish between the two, I like this way of looking at them.  I am thankful for my wonderful family and friends; I am grateful for all the great people I am going to meet.  I am thankful for my beautiful home; I am grateful for my three bedroom, oceanfront condo at the Jersey shore.  I am thankful for my coaching practice: I am grateful for international speaking engagements.  I’m sure you get the idea.

Being in a state of gratitude keeps us mentally and emotionally connected to our goals.  It sends out a very different vibration than if we think “I want it, but I don’t have it yet.”  When we think this way, the dominant vibration is one of “not having” rather than the faith that it is coming.

So last week, as we sat down to a delicious turkey dinner, I did something a little different at the start of the meal.  Rather than say the usual “God, thank you for this delicious meal and…yadda, yadda, yadda” I asked everyone to express gratitude for something they very much wanted, but didn’t quite have yet.  It was kind of fun.  One person said they were grateful for all the crazy people at work who would be resigning.  Someone else said they were grateful for the wonderful caregivers who were going to take care of their aging parents.  And someone (not mentioning names) said they were grateful for the good grades they were going to receive this semester (which made me just a little nervous, person whose name I’m not mentioning)

So what do you think about being grateful for something which you don’t quite have yet, as opposed to being thankful for what you do  have?    When you think of a goal, do you ever feel grateful for it coming, or do you think “I will be grateful when it gets here.”  Do you think there is a difference?

Give it a try~ think of something you really want to have or do or be.  Then try feeling gratitude for having it; try to feel how you will feel when you do have it.  Do you notice a difference?


Filed under FEEL Good, Gratitude

Giving Thanks For The Turkey

I remember a few years ago when my son (the one who had me bawling my eyes out in the last post!) told me his favorite holiday was Thanksgiving.  Not Christmas or his Birthday, where he is showered with gifts.  Not Halloween, where he is showered with candy.  Thanksgiving!  It made me happy then, and it makes me happy now. Continue reading


Filed under Gratitude, Thinking

Fight Fire With…A Powerful Documentary

Last night I attended a screening of the documentary After The Fire.  It chronicles the events of the intentionally-set dormitory fire which killed three young boys, injured dozens and left several severely burned at Seton Hall University in 2000.  The film was inspired from the NY Times Bestseller of the same name, which was poignantly penned by my dear friend, Robin Gaby Fisher. Continue reading


Filed under Gratitude, Great Books

Light Up The World With Your Mind

Over the weekend I was working on a new page for my website, showing the different Master Mind groups I offer.  I decided to include a picture of the three different books we can Master Mind together, which was pretty simple~ Copy~ Paste~ Done! Continue reading


Filed under Great Books, Master Mind, Personal Development, Thinking

Schedule Your Habits

As I continue to work on myself and help others do the same, I notice that significant growth seems to happen when we develop a new habit.  I also notice, it’s a difficult thing for most of us to do.  It’s not easy to add something new, because we become quite fond of our routine; and we cling tight to the “I don’t have enough time” mantra.  So, rather than add a new habit, I have found it is much easier to replace an existing one. Continue reading


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Play The Match Game AND WIN!

Any Baby Boomers out there will probably remember a TV show called “The Match Game.”   Contestants were given an incomplete sentence and they had to fill in the blank.  For example, “Dumb Dora was so dumb, that instead of a lunchbox, she packed her son’s lunch in a  ____________.” Continue reading


Filed under FEEL Good, Law of Attraction, Meditation

Got Goals? Write On!

One of the benefits I have found from working with a coach is forming good habits.  And one of the most helpful habits I encourage my clients to develop involves the use of a pen and paper.  And here are the instructions:


Try it and watch what happens.  I could end here.  No charge.

But rather than end, I’ll add a few bullet points to make it more valuable. Continue reading


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