I am Definitely Definite that I was NOT Definite!

outwitting-the-devil-book-coverWhat is the meaning of the word definite and why should we care? Dictionary.com defines definite as:

Clearly defined or determined;
not vague or general;
precise; exact.

The reason I care and also why I want you to care, is because life has gotten a whole lot easier, more fun, interesting and even more profitable as I have become definite about what I want.

This week concludes two programs I facilitated on Napoleon Hill’s Outwitting the Devil. As I receive feedback from the participants, over 90% feel that the thing which has had the greatest impact on them is understanding the importance of the term “Definiteness of Purpose.”

The homework for week #1 was simple~ write down your goal(s). Sounds easy enough, right?
If you’re as “smart” about this stuff as I am, you already KNOW that~ Duh! I learned the importance of writing down my goals over a decade ago, sheesh! Teach me something I don’t know!

What we learned, above all, is the essential nature of being clear, exact, precise and DEFINITE about what we want.
It is not enough to say “I want to be comfortable” (you could end up in a soft, cozy wheelchair…that’s “comfortable”, right?).
It is not sufficient to say “I need to earn enough to pay my mortgage this month” (you could end up earning just that, which is actually much less than you want and need, right?).
And it is definitely not advisable to say “Based on my knowledge and previous “experience,” this is what is likely to happen.” (You could be setting yourself up for more of the same results, whether you want them or not)

What I’ve learned, which I thought I already knew, is that by taking the time to DEFINE what I want,  get very clear, precise, exact and DEFINITE about it, everything begins to get more interesting, easy, fun and rewarding.
Everything.

I realize this may sound like “old news,” but I assure you, it is worth revisiting. I really thought I was clear and definite about my goals. And then I read Outwitting the Devil.
And then I did the homework.
And then everything began to get better.
Everything.

What do you think?
Are you definite about what you want?
Or do you, like I and many others did, spend time thinking about what you don’t want, don’t have or are worried about?
Will you do the homework?

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20 Responses to I am Definitely Definite that I was NOT Definite!

  1. I am definitely definite that I should be writing a paper write now, but this was a refreshing break. Being definitive about what I want to achieve is what has allowed me to succeed in college (and I’m proud to say what got me here in the first place.) It is also what motivates me to work two jobs and bust my butt in order to successfully make it in a field that I love and continues to inspire me every day. I am also definitely definite that it is a trait I gratefully acquired from my awesome mother.

    I love you. See you in a week. :)

    • Linda Ryan

      OMG Jack! You should really send me a “Heads’-up, I-just-left-a-comment-that’s-gonna-make-you-cry” text. What can I possibly say… other than you totally get it! Can’t WAIT to see you!!!
      PS. TWO jobs???
      PPS. You continually amaze me xo

  2. Linda, terrific article. Defining “it” is one of those things that may be simple but it is not easy. Great look at a key concept of success.

    More importantly, just the fact that your son Jack wrote such a cool comment as he did says a lot about you as a Mom. Apparently, you had a definite definitiveness of purpose to be a Mom that encouraged her kid to set definitive goals and then work to achieve them. Good for you…and Jack!

    • Linda Ryan

      Awwww, thanks Bob! You’re so right about “it” being a key concept of success. As I said in the post, it was one I THOUGHT I already knew. Hahahaha. And thank you for that nice comment about Jack. I humbly and gratefully receive it~ thanks for teaching me how!

  3. Definitely a great post with a purpose.

    The first challenge is getting into the habit of being precise. The second challenge is make sure that what you say you want is really what you want.

    I always try to add to that one more component. Make sure you want and enjoy the journey to your definite purpose (as much as you can). Winning a gold medal in the Olympics is only a momentary event. There is a before and after.
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  4. Jean Kuhn

    Linda,

    The highlight of this fantastic post was Jack’s comment.
    A highlight from the class for me, was when you took my incredible win from becoming definite about my purpose and made it your win. You saw so many more facets from a win that you pointed out to all of us, think I had not even thought of, and it was happening to me.
    You are an excellent facilitator. I hope those in the program can appreciate all they were given in this class.
    Jean

    • Linda Ryan

      Jean, thank you so much for that. It was such an incredible bonus for ALL of us to be able to witness your “miracle”! I learned so much from seeing what happened to you the INSTANT you got crystal clear about what you wanted. I’m still reeling from that and I’m still getting great feedback about that call you’re the BEST!

  5. Linda,
    Great post….always good to have things we ‘know’ reiterated…especially if done so in a new light. Clarity is power – and that is why it’s one of my Seven C’s of Branding. It is powerful in that we get total understanding of the topic and it is powerful for others because we can communicate to them with clarity.
    Sorry the times for your groups didn’t match my schedule…would have loved to participate. Next time maybe. :)
    Bill

    • Linda Ryan

      Thanks so much, Bill! Would have loved to have you in the group too~ next time is coming soon! Very cool that Clarity is one of your C’s! I agree: Clarity IS power! Completely!

  6. Linda
    Great post! I am definitely definite that I was ,and still am not, definite. I am working on that as you know. Outwitting the Devil and your Mastermind have been great reminders to me how important Definiteness of Purpose is. I’m also aware now of the many times I drift :) Love that book and have read/listened to it many times now. Very much enjoyed your class, too.
    Teri
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    • Linda Ryan

      Thank you, Teri! I’m so glad you enjoyed the class as I have enjoyed watching you change your life, by getting DEFINITE about what you want. And I am definitely definite that you are getting more definite every day!

  7. I am definite, that I definitely, loved this post! As you know Linda I am a big believer in being very clear about what I desire, but a reminder like your post definitely reinforces the action! Thank you! -Michelle
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    • Linda Ryan

      Hey Michelle, thanks so much and yes, I DO know you are all about being clear. And I also know things that you’ve attracted into your life by BEING clear. It’s pretty amazing, isn’t it? As Bob said above, simple… but not easy.

  8. I am definitely definite that this is an awesome post. That you are an awesome mom. That Jack is an awesome son. And that I’m so lucky that I met you. :-) Thank you for your ongoing humor and inspiration!!!! xo

    • Linda Ryan

      Ohhhhhhh Sherry! Sweet, sweet Sherry! You are a ray of celebratory sunshine in our lives. Thank you so much! I feel that IIIIIIIII am the lucky one :-D

  9. Great post, Linda! I agree that Jack’s comment was awesome! (I got a little teary myself!)
    Reading and LISTENING to OTD and being part of your class has DEFINTELY changed my life. I am so relieved to understand drifting (fear, procrastination) and getting MORE DEFINITE about what I want.
    Thank you so much!! xo

    • Linda Ryan

      Mary, I am so sorry I never saw this wonderful comment earlier. Thank you so much! Do you have any idea what it feels like to have someone tell you something you did “changed their life”??? As good as it gets and I am so thrilled for you. I believe 2014 will be the year of The Silva’s! xo

  10. Hi Linda,
    Fantastic post!…and great to read Jack’s comment as well. Credit to you both!
    The subject of ‘definiteness of purpose’ is something so beautiful to study and even those of us who do set ourselves goals, and write them down, we too need to go through the process of review, very regularly, to see if indeed, our goals are as specific as we can make them (as we are growing every day). Flooding our mind with our goal with certain tools also helps to maintain that ‘definiteness’.
    Have a great week Linda :-)

    • Linda Ryan

      Shame on me for not seeing your wonderful comment until now, Robert! (How do you say “Shame on Me” in British?) Thanks so much. Have you read/listened to Outwitting the Devil yet? I am certain you will be a BIG fan! Let me know and thanks again!

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