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How a Magician’s Scarf Kept Me Motivated; a Metaphor from E-Squared

scarfWhile putting the finishing touches on my newest coaching program, I gained some great insight from a metaphor in the book E-Squared, by Pam Grout. (I LOVE when that happens!) Grout says…

“…Think of a magician pulling a scarf through a hole. If you can just grab ahold of one tiny end, you can pull it all the way through. That’s all it takes~ one itty-bitty end. Decide what you want and keep focusing until you’ve pulled it all the way through.”

When I set a new goal I get excited and motivated, imagining what it will look and feel like when I achieve it. And I get busy moving towards it; taking the action steps I believe will move me in the direction of it.

Yet somewhere along the line, I can feel discouraged, as things don’t appear to be “happening.” I can become de-motivated and start entertaining the voice in my head that’s saying “You can’t do this… Maybe it’s too big… What’s the use? Try something else… blah, blah, BLAH!”

But this week, I kept thinking of that metaphor and it really helped me to stay focused and productive. Although that voice kept chiming in, it didn’t sound quite as loud. When I heard it (you hear voices too, right?), I would remind myself of the scarf and tell myself (you talk to yourself too, right?) “You don’t have to pull it all the way through right now; just hold on to that corner!”

Holding on to that itty-bitty little corner is very do-able, even if we’re feeling discouraged.
And holding on is the polar opposite of letting go or, in this case, giving up

I discovered that telling myself to “just hold on to the corner” gave me more motivation than I ever would have imagined! And with that increased motivation came the strength to give it a good, firm tug here and there.

And, just like the metaphor, the holding on and the tugging advanced that scarf through the hole. I still can’t see the other end completely, but I see much more of it than I would have if I hadn’t kept pulling.

How do you like this metaphor?
Do you have one of your own that helps you when you feel discouraged? I’d love to hear it!

My 6-week Groups on E-Squared begin this week and there’s still a few spots left. I’d love to have your “E” join us~ here’s all the info.!


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A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to E2

The very first experiment in my new favorite book, E2 by Pam Grout, tells us to ask for a blessing or unexpected gift from the “Field of Potentiality” (the FP) or God or the Universe or Infinite Intelligence or whatever higher power you believe in. You set a 48 hour limit and you ask for “a thumbs up, a clear sign, something that cannot be written off as coincidence.”

One of my clients just started the book and I decided to do the experiment with him. The clock was ticking and I decided to spend a little time in my journal, but wanted to use my favorite pen, which I couldn’t locate. I thought it might be in my purse and when I went there to look, not only did I find that pen, I also found this sticker, which I had never seen before.

heart1Sign delivered, thank you FP!

A few minutes after the 48 hour deadline had passed, my client (I’ll call him Brian, because that is not his name) texted me “He’s late!”

A little while later Brian called me to tell me “it didn’t work.”

A little relevant background on Brian:
He is open-minded enough to play with me, but skeptical, intelligent and “realistic” enough to get in his own way.
Aren’t we all?

He said “Well there was this one thing, but it didn’t count because it was already there.” He proceeded to tell me how, right after our session, he was having a final inspection on a home he built. The inspector was crossing all the T’s and dotting the I’s, so Brian could be released from the bond held on the property.

They couldn’t locate the surveyor monuments (4″ X 4″ wooden posts, marking the borders of the property). The inspector told him he’d need to bring in a surveyor to install them (a $2,000 project) and then the bond could be released.

Brian felt certain that those posts were there and he continued to look, despite the inspector telling him they weren’t. Lo and behold, he found them! Now not only would he not have to pay a surveyor to install them, the bond could be released and he could get his money back.

Although he was very happy, Brian didn’t feel that counted as his sign, because “it was already there.” WHAT?! So was the heart-shaped sticker, in my purse.

We began what felt like a bit of a debate to me; I wanted him to shift his perception, let go of his skepticism and acknowledge what seemed like a very obvious blessing/sign to me. And he wanted me to agree that we shouldn’t count something that was already there as a sign. Unfortunately, our call was disconnected before we had the chance to really get into it.

don1A few minutes later he sent me this text.

I was stunned.

In E2, Grout tells us that God has quite a sense of humor. To me, this was a costly, inconvenient, yet hilarious sign. Brian is still trying to figure out if I might be right.

I’ve been accused of reading into things too much, so tell me what you think.
Did finding those surveying monuments “count” as a sign, since they were “already there”?
Was getting a ticket for using a phone while driving also a sign?
Have you read E2 yet?


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Think and Grow Rich…Again?!

I am SUPER excited to be starting a book study on Think & Grow Rich in a few hours. Although I’ve been facilitating groups on this book for almost eight years, this time I will be the student. My teachers will be the awesome Paul Martinelli and Roddy Galbraith.


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I am Definitely Definite that I was NOT Definite!

outwitting-the-devil-book-coverWhat is the meaning of the word definite and why should we care? defines definite as:

Clearly defined or determined;
not vague or general;
precise; exact. Continue reading


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What You Appreciate Appreciates

This was the beautiful scene I enjoyed on Friday

This was the beautiful scene I enjoyed on Friday

That’s a quote from the book E2 by Pam Grout. This week my master mind partners and I are doing the last experiment, which is called “The Fish & Loaves Principle.”  The hypothesis is that
if I change my outlook and make a concerted effort to look for goodness, beauty and abundance, it will show up in spades”. Continue reading


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The Simple Secret To Achieving Your Goal

I recently became aware of a simple secret about goal achieving and I’m excited to share it! Immediately after deciding on your goal:

  • Go out and LOOK for it!
  • EXPECT to find it!
  • HAVE FUN searching!
  • FANTASIZE about telling your friends you achieved it!


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Does this picture make me look like Napoleon Hill’s Outwitting the Devil?

outwitting the devil

Read this book. You’ll thank me later :-)

As you may know, I am rather obsessed with the book Outwitting the Devil, by Napoleon Hill.  My mission is to let as many people as humanly possible know about this book. I want everyone to read it, because many who do, are experiencing breakthroughs, the likes of which I have not seen. So I got an idea…. Continue reading


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How “the devil” helps us choose Faith over Fear

outwitting the devilEvery now and then, a book comes along that can truly alter the rest of your life.  For me, one such book is Outwitting the Devil, by Napoleon Hill, brilliantly edited and annotated by Sharon Lechter.  You’ll be hearing a lot from me about this book over the next few weeks, but today I want to talk about one of the prominent themes of the book and the most common way “the devil” controls us… Continue reading


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I’ve Fallen and I Can’t Get Down!

It’s true.
I have fallen madly, deeply, hopelessly in L-O-V-E… with the devil!  Not THE Devil, but with the book “Outwitting the Devil,” by Napoleon Hill.  Love bordering on obsession.  This book has stretched my mind in ways I didn’t know were possible.  And I’m finding it hard to feel “down,” even though I’m involved with some challenges.
And I love it! Continue reading


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What Are You Thinking?

I’m currently working with several people who are enjoying “The Strangest Secret,” by Earl Nightingale.  Yesterday, I read a few quotes from the book and asked a client to choose one that resonates with him.  He chose the following, by Ralph Waldo Emerson…

“A man is what he thinks about all day long” Continue reading


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