One of my favorite daily emails comes from Abraham and today’s quote has perfect timing for me, and maybe for you too. Here it is…..
To evoke the best from others, you must find a vibration that is a match to the best in others.
Think about a person or a behavior which irritates you in some way. Maybe it’s a client who is consistently late for appointments, or a friend who puts you on hold (for way too long!) every time you’re on the phone, or a child who always leaves the lights on when they go up to bed.
Now think about what you think about, when it comes to that person and that behavior. Do you expect them to be late? Do you just know they’re going to leave the lights on?
Referring back to Abraham’s quote, the vibration of expecting irritating behavior is exactly the same or a match to the vibration of the thing that irritates us. So it logically follows that we might alter the outcome by altering our thinking and feeling (which determines our vibration) about it.
As a coach, I notice how often we talk about what we don’t want to happen; even predict it! Just the other day, a realtor told me they would finish an article they were working on over the weekend, because they were “doing an open house and no one is going to come.”
I asked them why they were going to waste a beautiful Sunday if they knew nobody was going to come. We both laughed and he shifted his thinking, but you can see how “normal” this is.
We have experience.
And using that wisdom and experience, we can assume or predict what is likely to happen.
And here’s the problem~ we’re usually right!
It’s funny, when you think about it.
It’s also not so funny.
So how do you do, in regard to “knowing” what is going to happen or what someone is going to do (or not do)? And do you believe it makes a difference if we catch ourselves and shift our thinking when we realize what we’re saying?