Love this gratitude quote from Neale Donald Walsch and had a first-hand illustration of it this week.
“The struggle ends when
the gratitude begins” Continue reading
Today I am excited to share my new favorite thing. It’s called the 10-10 Exercise, takes only a few minutes and brings rather magical results. Here’s how it works
Each day (first thing in thing in the morning, if possible), write down
Yesterday, a friend asked how she could shake herself out of a “funky” mood. As we were discussing things she might do, I became profoundly aware of how simple this exercise is if you are prepared; and how utterly impossible it seems if you are not prepared. So here’s a way you can prepare to be prepared for when a funky mood strikes~ Continue reading
I am currently enrolled in a Prosperity Coaches training which involves wearing a blue Abundance Activist™ bracelet, similar to a Livestrong bracelet. Every time I GIVE or RECEIVE something, I switch the bracelet to the other wrist. It may sound silly, but doing that simple action has had a dramatic effect on my awareness of both of these things.
It doesn’t matter what I am giving or receiving; it could be time, money, a gift, a kind word, an iPad… Every time I notice such an act, I switch the bracelet.
Well, yesterday I made my annual trip to my favorite flea market to do some Christmas shopping. I’ve been going there for over 20 years, and I never remember receiving a discount, aside from the normal “Buy 1 for $20 or 2 for $30″ offer. But this trip was different and that blue bracelet got quite a workout!
The highlight of the day occurred while going down my last aisle, cold and weary from three hours of walking and spending. A gentleman selling food choppers asked “Will you watch my demonstration? You don’t have to buy anything. No one else is.” His humorous approach made me laugh and although I was tired and had absolutely no interest in what he was selling, I said “Sure! Show me what you’ve got.”
As I approached his table, I switched my bracelet, aware that I had made the decision to GIVE this nice man a few minutes of my time.
The demo was so cool that I purchased his chopper for $25. As I waited for him to put it in the bag, I started to switch my bracelet, aware that I was GIVING him a sale, not because I really wanted the product (although it is really cool!) but because I felt like doing something nice. At that moment, the thought to GIVE him the bracelet came to me, so I did.
After explaining how to use it, he happily put it on his wrist, smiled and said “You just made my day!” and I really felt his appreciation. He continued, “And now I’m gonna make yours” as he put a second chopper in the bag! How cool is that?! We were both smiling ear-to-ear as he switched the bracelet to his other wrist.
As soon as I got home, I put on a new blue bracelet and have switched it several times since then. I’ve been assured the bracelet isn’t magic, but the awareness that every GIVING also involves a RECEIVING truly is!
Where is your awareness on the topic of giving and receiving? Do you notice one more than the other? I can promise that as you become more aware of both, you will experience both and on a more equivalent, consistent basis.
One of my mentors suggested that there is a difference between being thankful and being grateful. He said that being thankful is appreciating something you already have, while being grateful is appreciating something you have not yet received, but have faith is coming.
Although the dictionary does not distinguish between the two, I like this way of looking at them. I am thankful for my wonderful family and friends; I am grateful for all the great people I am going to meet. I am thankful for my beautiful home; I am grateful for my three bedroom, oceanfront condo at the Jersey shore. I am thankful for my coaching practice: I am grateful for international speaking engagements. I’m sure you get the idea.
Being in a state of gratitude keeps us mentally and emotionally connected to our goals. It sends out a very different vibration than if we think “I want it, but I don’t have it yet.” When we think this way, the dominant vibration is one of “not having” rather than the faith that it is coming.
So last week, as we sat down to a delicious turkey dinner, I did something a little different at the start of the meal. Rather than say the usual “God, thank you for this delicious meal and…yadda, yadda, yadda” I asked everyone to express gratitude for something they very much wanted, but didn’t quite have yet. It was kind of fun. One person said they were grateful for all the crazy people at work who would be resigning. Someone else said they were grateful for the wonderful caregivers who were going to take care of their aging parents. And someone (not mentioning names) said they were grateful for the good grades they were going to receive this semester (which made me just a little nervous, person whose name I’m not mentioning)
So what do you think about being grateful for something which you don’t quite have yet, as opposed to being thankful for what you do have? When you think of a goal, do you ever feel grateful for it coming, or do you think “I will be grateful when it gets here.” Do you think there is a difference?
Give it a try~ think of something you really want to have or do or be. Then try feeling gratitude for having it; try to feel how you will feel when you do have it. Do you notice a difference?
I remember a few years ago when my son (the one who had me bawling my eyes out in the last post!) told me his favorite holiday was Thanksgiving. Not Christmas or his Birthday, where he is showered with gifts. Not Halloween, where he is showered with candy. Thanksgiving! It made me happy then, and it makes me happy now. Continue reading
Last night I almost had a car accident. It was the closest I’ve ever come to actually smashing into another car (except for the time I backed into one of my best friends in the school parking lot and did $4000 worth of damage, but that was 15 years ago, so I’m pretty sure it doesn’t count it anymore) and it scared the beejeezus out of me! The other person was obviously distracted and they drifted into my lane to the point I had to drive onto someone’s front lawn to avoid them. Continue reading
In September, I went to see the U.S. Open Tennis Tournament in New York. As I pulled into the parking lot, the attendant said “You can put your money away. ‘The company who made your car’ is paying for your parking today!” Continue reading
When you wear contact lenses, you need to visit the Eye Doctor every two years, in order to refill your prescription. A few weeks ago when I inserted my last pair of contacts, I heard myself having a not-so-nice conversation in my head that sounded something like this: Continue reading